MOVING IN

When I was ready to move out of my parent's house it was because I was married. Now that I look back on it I didn't care what our first apartment looked like. It could have had shelves supported by cinder blocks in the living room. I didn't care I was moving out of a bedroom that held my entire life into a three bedroom flat with a living room, dinning room, kitchen and a bath and my own washer and dryer. I was going out in the world to start my life with the guy loved and a long future ahead of us. It is very different with my daughter. She owns her own condo and her fiance owns his own house and they both have bought and decorated in their own personal style. My daughter is planning on moving into his house and her decorating style is clashing with his or vice verse. I am having trouble helping them balance this but I never had this problem. Granted most of the things that were in my husband's and my first apartment was his stuff because he had an apartment when we met I still had to merge my stuff into his, but like I said it didn't matter to me. I guess it's different with my daughter she had to earn the money and painstakingly picked out the furniture and paid for it her self so I guess in a sense she is right that she doesn't feel like she wasts to give it up and he had to do the same and he probably feels the same way. The only way I could help them is tell them that they each had a style when they met and now that have to make it an "our style". I am sure it will work out but it may be painful.